Who is the Black Sheep?

Who is the Black Sheep?

Yes, even I would like to know this, who is this black sheep? 

That everybody thinks will be responsible for his/her well being, may it be home or at office. Yes, you were a child once upon a time and children generally in their process of thoughtless explorations may not know the obvious dangers and hence require some direction, 'taking care'. But please you don't fall into that category. You are not a momma's boy or daddy's girl anymore, you have learnt to use your radar and you can sense your own dangers. Just start moving forward and quit worrying about a hand-hold all the time.

This may not be true with all the people, but I would like to send this message out to all those people who have their 'expectations' over people and that too at all levels. You have all right to expect, but do not be fooled that things would go the same way as its supposed to. What you have is a wish and not all wishes are destined to come true. I'm writing this not because people haven't understood their expectations, I'm sincerely bothered about the time that they spend on brooding over it before or after and its such a waste of precious human energy. 

If all that energy could be tapped, I don't think we would need the sun anymore and the divine energy of the Sun could be used in some other noble hunt for mankind :-)

Seriously, aren't we surrounded by such people and so many times we end up pacifying them on how their expectations with another person didn't go well and we are saying the same things again and again. I just feel like pouring water on their slumbering self-esteem.

Also me being a member of the HR community stand witness to so many people expecting things from their colleagues, managers or the organisation all the time. Well you have the right to expect and your rights on your expectations are justified but there ends the line that you can cross. How you would want these expectations to work out for you in the way you want it, lies totally on your existence with the groups that you are interacting with. 

Here, lets play a game, I call this 'show me the black sheep' so send me a mail once you know the answers for these questions;

Show me the black sheep...

... who said that its the manager's responsibility to take care of your career?
... who said that your father has the responsibilty to provide for all your needs?
... who said that organisations have to provide for taking care of your economic needs?
... who said that your friend has to take the fall at most situations?
... who said that Sr.Management is only responsible for the company's growth?
... who said that your mother has to defend you at all times?
... who said that your team members should approach you at all times if they are stuck?
... who said that you forward your resume to one person and they should land you in a job?
... who said that your Govt should take care of corruption while you keep giving that extra 10 out?
... who said that you send a mail to one person and they should look at it the minute it lands in their inbox?

The amount of dependencies that you create is the amount of control that you lose. The more you lose control of your surrounding, the more you lose on the control you own. Do begin to realise the structure around you and see how you can create your own destinations to reach. All the people you need are there around, but they will be only till the point that they are interested to provide any help, if you expect things to come on a platter, I wish you all the best for finding the lost Black Sheep - which is YOU!

Inspired By: Ayn Rand - "Who is John Galt?" and Song from Delhi-6 "Kala Bandar"